ARE YOU AFRAID OF INTIMACY?
Hello beloved friend!
These words flooded to me last night as Thibault and I were preparing the material we will be offering on Friday night at the Couple's Alchemy event. I hope you can hear the call…
Many of us are afraid to sit across from the person we once said yes to spending the rest of our lives with. The promise of forever was made with love and hope, but a lot of time has passed since that day. Life has a way of getting busy, and sometimes, we grow apart. We might become good friends, co-parents, and roommates, but the spark that ignited our hearts has dimmed. We may have forgotten what made us fall in love in the first place, falling into the gutter of neutrality. Love-making becomes a chore, if it’s still a thing at all. The flame that once burned brightly between two hearts now flickers low, barely visible.
It often feels safer to be blind to this reality because deep down, we know the work required to rescue a relationship seems daunting and distant. We may be afraid to sit across from our partners because we don’t want them to see aspects of ourselves that we’ve been carefully hiding. We haven’t yet learned to love those same parts of ourselves. It takes immense courage to undress our masks in front of our beloved. It takes courage to acknowledge how the relationship has lost its magic. It takes courage to recognize that if some things don’t change, we may not be together “until death does us part” as promised.
True intimacy can be terrifying because it requires us to be completely vulnerable.
To truly connect, we must open ourselves up, exposing our deepest fears, insecurities, and desires. This level of openness can be daunting because it leaves us feeling exposed and uncertain. We fear rejection, judgment, or being misunderstood. But it’s in this space of vulnerability that true intimacy flourishes. By letting down our guards, we create a sacred space where genuine connection can thrive, allowing us to experience the profound beauty of being fully seen and felt by our partner.
To be in service of the world, we first need to be in service of our intimate relationship. Our partners are the safest mirrors, reflecting back to us the ways we show up in all aspects of life. If we allow them, they can be our greatest teachers.
It takes one partner to step into that courage and call the other one awake.
Rekindling the flame requires vulnerability and a willingness to reconnect. It’s about remembering what made you fall in love and nurturing those feelings once more. It’s about open communication, rediscovering intimacy, and being brave enough to face the parts of ourselves that need healing. Together, it is possible to rebuild the magic that once was and transform the relationship into a source of strength and inspiration.
I share this with you because Thibault and I are the living proof of that possibility.
Meet us in practice.
Deep Love,
